Why is ‘sex positive’ a taboo?

U-News Staff

World AIDS Day, Dec. 1 of each year, draws awareness of the disease, its sufferers and its victims.

Right now, 1.2 million people in the U.S. and 33.4 million people around the world live with HIV/AIDS, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.

More than half of HIV-infected young people are unaware that they have the virus, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Those who are sexually active are recommended to test for HIV even if they’re not at high risk of contracting the infection.

Everyone between the ages of 15 and 65 should be screened for HIV, even if they’re not at high risk for it.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 409.2 out of every 100,000 people had Chlamydia in 2009, and the 18-25 year-old age group accounts for half of the new STDs reported each year in the U.S

This morning, I re-learned the name of the guy in my bed and left my room.

There are a lot of people who frown upon the idea of a one-night stand.

I can’t count the amount of times I’ve been warned of the risks: STDs, STIs, the tarnished reputation, the possibility of HIV.

We’re reminded to “wrap it up,” and practice “safer sex.”

The potential life-changing consequences of unsafe sex are things to be afraid of, especially in the eyes of the parent of a young adult with an entire life ahead of him or her. The risks of sleeping around (for lack of a better phrase) aren’t just talked about; they’re real.

For many, fear of the consequences of sex is too much to justify a night of indulgence. Yet every night, young men and women leave the bar to take the party back home and upstairs.

As I write this, I’m at Starbucks on the Plaza trying to remember exactly what happened last night, and I can’t quite put a finger on it.

My mind often wanders to the question of why don’t we live in a sex-positive society?

The sex positive movement advocates for sex education and safer sex. The sex positive movement is about inclusion and consent.

The sex positive movement eschews the traditional cultural taboos about sex.

Why is sex such taboo? Why does sex have such a negative connotation? What can we do to change that?

Regardless of what you’re doing or not doing or how you do it, having somebody in the same bed as you is validating. It’s a quick fix.

I’m a late night person, and when I say that, I don’t mean that I like to stay up past midnight rather often.

I’m a late night person in the sense that at least five nights a week, I’ll stay awake until 4 or 5 a.m. despite having class in three hours.

Anyone who’s with me on this knows that when you’re alone, watching the seconds on a clock creep by is a sure way to start thinking about how nobody is there.

Questions start to form, and with nothing but silence and empty company, it’s hard to dodge them.

I look over at the bed and notice that the sheets are messed up and get to wondering why the most recent guy really called it off. I start chasing closure.

He’s not awake, though, and probably wouldn’t respond to text messages even if I were to send one.
I look for a distraction.

Late night conditions are perfect for over-thinking. Small hours seem to highlight the negative and give too much time to dwell on it.

The risks associated with sex are obvious, and they’re not to be discounted by any means.

I’m still sitting at Starbucks on the Plaza trying to remember exactly what happened last night, and I can’t quite put a finger on it. But, at least I didn’t sleep alone.
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