Tips for today’s ‘have-it-all’ woman

Kharissa Forte

In the old days, women sometimes had to choose between getting married and raising a family or getting a degree and pursuing a career.

Women today are making “having it all” a reality by putting hard work into both their personal and business lives.

This superwoman mentality became increasingly popular in 1965 when Helen Gurley Brown became editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine. At the time, feminists ironically discouraged the have-it-all idea.

Unmoved by the opposition, Brown implemented her stance into the magazine and turned a failing publication into a booming success for Hearst Publications. She served as editor-in-chief until 1997 and as the international editor until her death in August 2012.

I am a dedicated wife and mother, as well as a full-time student aspiring to advance in the journalism field after I graduate in May. I strongly believe that women who may have encountered life a little out of order like I did can achieve their goals and thrive at being a wife and mother, too.

Tip No. 1:

Rise and shine.

Waking up early is of the essence. There’s no better way to start the day than to get up before everyone else and enjoy a little “me” time.

Doing this allows me to be calm when I get my daughter ready for school, instead of feeling rushed and anxious.

Tip No. 2:

Get your spiritual life in check.

Meditation is essential to having an effective day. I accomplish this by spending quiet time reading the Bible and praying.

If spirituality is not for you, simply practicing deep breathing exercises may help to get you centered.

Tip No. 3:

Become healthy from the inside out.

Ensuring that I take care of my health through proper diet and exercise is of high priority.

By doing so, I’m not just healthier physically. I’m also a better person emotionally and I’m mentally capable of juggling – instead of struggling – my day-to-day activities.

Tip No. 4:

Get rid of the negativity in life.

With all I have going on, the last thing I need is for someone’s negative energy to rub off on me.

I’m not talking about being there for a friend who’s going through a hard time. I’m talking about those people who rarely have anything good to say.

Women who gave up on their own dreams to have a family or who discarded the family idea for a career may not always be in your corner. It’s important to build relationships with women who are as ambitious as you are to stay motivated.

Tip No. 5:

Last but not least… Prioritize and manage your time wisely.

My order of operations is faith first, family second then, me.

There have been times where my priorities were out of order and my life was in utter chaos as a result. Develop your own list of priorities, analyze how much time you need for each item and stick to it.

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